We review the literature on relational aggression in developmental stages from childhood to young adulthood. Though media portrayals of relational aggression as a female issue or a modern phenomenon are overblown, most people experience relational aggression. The form that relational aggression takes over the developmental course changes as goals and contexts change. We present data from a study of college women on their experiences and perceptions of relational aggression, including the form that aggressive behaviors take in a college sample.